After a loved one crosses over it can feel as though you’re left with a gaping hole in your heart, you may feel lost and alone, angry and sad… while experiencing many other waves of emotions as you go through the mourning process and coming to terms with your loss. You feel as if they are gone from your life forever, but the truth is, they are always with us.
We are all spirit having a human experience, so when our human form passes over our spirit continues to live on. It’s the same with animals too.
So it makes total sense that sometimes our passed loved ones will try to get messages across to us. They may want to make contact to let you know that they’re okay, to give you help and guidance, to comfort you in your grief, to give you a message, or for other reasons. It may be that they just want to check up on you from time to time over the years to see how you are doing.
They like to visit and acknowledge significant events such as birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, births, deaths, or even to warn us of a bad situations.
If you know what to look for, you’ll get the message they are trying to convey.
Spirit are often very eager to let you know they are part of your life and are with you when you least expect it. While many people can feel their passed loved ones watching over them, self-doubt can creep in and many tend to question whether or not what you experienced is actually a message from a passed loved one.
Spirit will provide us with many signs and will continue to try and get through in the hope that they will be recognised (some of these signs are listed below).
The signs will come in a variety of ways, and the key is keep your eye open for synchronicities and anything out of the ordinary.
These spontaneous and direct methods of communication can occur at any time, and anywhere. You can be fully awake, in a twilight state of dreaming and waking, or in a dream state.
All you need to connect with passed loved ones is the ability to be open and pay attention.
Here is a list of the most common signs our loved ones give to us…
One of the most common ways for spirit to visit and communicate with us is through dreams. While sleeping your conscious mind has quietened and you have less resistance through your own thoughts, blockages and beliefs – you’re relaxed and open. Most people are comfortable seeing a loved one in a dream and of course they don’t want to scare you!
Spirit and angels will give you messages through words, symbols, and scenes that you can use as guidance for your life. Be aware that that these messages can take time to decipher. A great place to start is with a dream journal, or at the very least have a pen and paper next to your bed so that you can write things down quickly either in the middle of the night if you’re woken by your dream, or first thing in the morning when you’re dream is relatively fresh in your mind.
If you are visited by someone in a dream, you will know as these dreams are quite different from regular dreaming and you may try talk yourself out of the fact that you had a ‘spirit visitation’ dream.
In spirit visitation dreams a deceased loved one often enters the dream, or is surrounded by some sort of light. In the dream, while they may talk to you or ask you to deliver messages, they will usually offer some sort of comfort that they are okay, everything is peaceful, and that they made it to the other side comfortably. Symbols in your dream are used to help you to interpret the dream.
A dream that is a true visitation will be very peaceful and you will know within yourself that it is truly your loved one. You will remember these types of dreams in detail for many years to come.
If your dream is frightening or makes you feel bad, this is not a spirit visitation dream. This is your subconscious, worries and concerns coming through. Our loved ones are always loving and positive, much the same as they were when living, but more so now that they are in the spirit world as now they have no worries or concerns, have or are going through healing, and will shine with love.
If for some reason you deal feel a negative spirit coming through for whatever reason, all you need to do is ask Archangel Michael to protect you and for him to only allow spirit of the light to come through with positive messages for you.
Number patterns are also very commonly shown to us by spirit and Angels. You will see the same numbers over and over until you get the message! Spirit love to give numbers that hold some significance such as birth dates, anniversaries, and other significant event dates. You may relate a number sequence to a date a particular person had passed – they are letting YOU know they are with you!
Repeating numbers such as 111, 222, 333, etc. seen on clocks, phone numbers or other familiar places, could also have some significance to a passed loved one (like time of death for example).
This is also a very common way to receive messages from the Angels with each number having a significant meaning of guidance for you based on timeless and accurate numerology.
Signs Through Plants or Animals
Butterflies, Birds, Dragonfly’s, Ladybugs… Spirits can use their energy to be with us through the animal world for a very short amount of time. If an animal does something unusual like land in front of you or on you, stare at you through a window or peck at the window, squawk at you as if they’re trying to speak to you – any of these could be a sign that your loved one is around you.
Sometimes the plants or animals come to you out of season, like seeing a robin in the winter when they should have migrated to warm weather.
Or the plant or animal may have associations with the person who passed over. For example, your grandmother loved irises, and an iris suddenly starts growing in your flower bed – when you KNOW you never planted an iris bulb. What a delightful, surprising sign from heaven that your grandmother is still with you!
Those in the Spirit World will often manipulate nature to grab our attention by putting something unusual in our path.
Signs Through Small Objects
It is very common for spirit to use objects like feathers, coins, stones, and other small objects that may have some significance to either you or the spirit. Spirit like to place things in your path to let you know they are around.
Finding dimes and pennies from Heaven means you’re loved and valued. Your angels, or loved ones showing you something which carries value as a metaphor of you being valued by them.
Finding a feather is often a magical moment. It is amazing how the feather can come into your life, it’s presence and location seeming out of this world. Spirit finds a way to synchronistically align the feather with your whereabouts and then nudge you to take notice.
You may receive objects other than these that are somehow significant to your loved one like seashells (if they loved the beach), paintbrushes (if they were an artist), or even screws and nails (if they were a builder).
When this happens, say hello, and know that your loved one is sending you a sign from spirit.
Even from beyond the physical, your loved one is able to move objects to get your attention. They move objects of yours, like flipping over a picture, moving a piece of clothing into an odd location, or causing something to fall as a way of getting your attention.
Perhaps you’ve noticed that that bottle of perfume isn’t exactly where you thought you left it. Or “someone” keeps moving the TV remote, or hiding your socks…
Strange Electrical Occurrences
Spirit LOVE to play with electricity. After all… we are ALL energy! Energy runs through ALL things! Your loved ones in Heaven, who are now pure energy, are able to easily tap into this energetic flow to get your attention. For this reason, one of the most common signs from spirit happens when they, from beyond the physical play with electricity.
They love to manipulate appliances like flickering lights, turning the television and radio on and off, making things beep or ring for no apparent reason and children’s toys can start to play and move around. Ever heard the doorbell ring, you go to answer to find no-one is there (and it isn’t Halloween!).
If unusual things like this happen to you, it might be that someone is trying to tell you something.
What show is on when the TV mysteriously turns on? What were you thinking about when the light flickered? Were you thinking about your loved one? Your thoughts can offer additional insight into the message from your loved one, or even offer confirmation that the flickering of your lights really is your loved one in heaven.
Synchronicity is experiencing two or more events that are unlikely to occur together by chance, yet are experienced by occurring together in a meaningful way. Spirit can arrange ‘signs’ for you in this way. For example, maybe you’ve heard the same name pop up several times in one day? Perhaps you have been recommended to read the same book by several different people. There’s so many things that contribute to synchronicity and I’m sure you’ve already experienced it several times before. These are signs you’re on to something, pay attention.
Receiving a symbolic message, sign, coincidence or synchronicity – Synchronicities can be a sign of confirmation, of thoughts – of messages a sign spirits are watching over you!
The signs that show up in life can lead us down different paths. A sign may be a person who resembles a person from our past, an animal that shows itself to us during a walk or a quote that you hear over and over in a day. Synchronicity is when we have more than one sign show up with the same meaning.
If we listen, pay attention and follow a sign we may be led to more. If we don’t pay attention, then we may end up being distracted onto other paths and going down a path that may not serve us. Typically, a path connected to synchronicity has a higher potential to serve our whole self – body, heart, and mind.
Songs are a great way for spirit to trigger memories for you. Spirits love to play songs to deliver messages to you. Sometimes you will wake up with a random song in your head and you have no idea why you’re thinking of it (not so random really). Or perhaps you turn on the radio and you hear a song that instantly reminds you of a passed loved one.
You might be able to listen to the song in the background in a while doing grocery in departmental stores. Or when you are having dinner at a restaurant, when you are driving and play the radio. Moreover, when you are watching a show or a movie on TV or even when you randomly play music, you may feel that your loved one is nearby.
Aside from letting you know they’re around, pay close attention to the lyrics, there could be a message in it for you. Often, song signs are played several different times in several different places, but not always. We know they are around when their favourite song come on at the right time with the exact words we need to hear.
We can often tell our passed loved ones are around us by smells like perfume, cigar/cigarette smoke, particular flowers, cooking, or any other familiar smell they had. There is no logical explanation as to why the smell is there, others can’t smell it (sometimes they can), but it seemingly comes from nowhere. For example if you smell cigar smoke, and no one is smoking near you, but you can associate it with, or it makes you think of, your passed grandfather use to smoke cigars – chances are it’s him letting you know he’s around!
Scent is common sign from Heaven. Our loved ones can temporarily move the particles with the air of your space to imitate the scent associated with them. As humans, we remember how our loved ones smell. We recall a unique fragrance or perfume they enjoyed or even the odour of activity they loved doing. If you sense their smell, fragrance or odour, do not be scared instead be happy.
Think of the familiar smells you associate with your loved one. When you suddenly smell a pleasant scent that is somehow familiar, it’s a sign that your loved one is nearby or present. Spirits use smells that are special to us because we immediately notice and pay attention to them.
Buzzing in your Ear
Have you ever had a high pitch noise in one or both of your ears that has just come out of nowhere? And no, I don’t mean the after effects of a big night out at a rock concert either. It is, quite different to that. I will point out here that there is a medical condition that is described similar to this and perhaps something you may want to get checked too. However, we are talking on a spirit level. What does this mean?
Spirit run at a much higher frequency than we do (hence the high pitched noise in our ears). You can ask them to turn it down (or up). This sign can mean that you are “downloading” information in to your subconscious, it can be a sign telling you to listen to what they are saying.
Observe your surroundings and see if there is anything important to notice, a sign on the roadside? A bird flying by? When you read a newspaper or a book or surfing the internet for something? Did you feel the buzzing in your ear or ears when you read a specific sentence? Go through that sentence again and search for a message your loved one might be trying to convey. Perhaps the buzzing in your ear is afterwards a certain thought; this can be a sign of confirmation or support from your loved one.
Sensing Their Presence
Sometimes there doesn’t need to be an overt sign that forces you to stop and think about a deceased loved one. Instead, you simply can sense and feel that some loving, otherworldly spirit is present and guiding you. This 6th sense or inkling is calming and peaceful. It’s the type of feeling you get inside which you automatically attribute to the spirit of a loved one. When this occurs, and should it ever happen to you, it’s never scary or unsettling, rather it’s reassuring and welcome.
You might notice a shift when spirit is around you. It could be a change in energy, a feeling, suddenly experiencing a difference in temperature, brush of cold air when all doors and windows are closed or actual movement. Perhaps you might feel like someone is sitting next to you.
A light brush of your hair, holding your hand, a gentle touch, a hug. It can sometimes feel as if you’ve just walked through a spider web, but there is nothing there. That old saying you may or may not have heard of (when you get a chill or a sudden shiver/shudder) – “that felt like someone just walked over my grave”.
It has been said by some that feeling their touch is most common in the days directly following a loved one’s passing. However, some spirits do continue to visit long after they’ve passed, and let you know by using the ability of touch. You may also feel your loved one lay down next to you at night, or you get the sense they’re sitting next to you, holding your hand, or gently rubbing your back, touching your cheek, or brushing your hair.
Usually you’ll feel a sense of love and peacefulness for no reason. It can happen at the most unsuspecting times, and there’s no logical explanation for such sudden bliss. There’s nothing to fear, say hello and thank them for visiting!
Our beloved dead ones influence our thoughts. Our loved ones don’t have a clear voice because they are a pure energy now. Consequently, they send us signs intuitively. Pay close attention to opinions that just arrive into your head that you think of out of nowhere. Especially you think of something your deceased loved one would say for no logical reason, it is most possibly them trying to communicate with you directly.
Pay attention to any thoughts that just ‘pops’ into your head. For example, you see a bird that is very uncommon in your area and you immediately remember how much your grandmother loved this particular bird? Maybe she sent you this to remind you of her and to let you know she’s thinking of you and that she is with you. You might be thinking of your next holiday and suddenly you get an inspiration to go to a certain place, perhaps it’s somewhere your loved one has been before and they’re making a suggestion for you? Your loved ones are just a thought away.
When we are mourning, we want to believe that our loved ones are still with us, and they are. Maybe everything that we experience is not a sign, but we can’t rationalise away things through reasoning, either. No matter what you believe, your loved will still love you beyond their life on earth.